Experts named the reasons for choosing a relationship with several partners
Choosing a relationship with multiple partners is not only related to biological inclinations, but also to the influence of culture, personal experience, type of attachment, and the digital environment. All the details are in the Izvestia article.
The Nature of human relationships
Humans are not an exclusively monogamous or polygamous species. According to Alexandra Grazhdanov, a psychologist in the AST (Acceptance and Responsibility Therapy) approach, modern scientific evidence describes humans as a species with flexible behavioral strategies. Although biological inclinations exist, they do not control a person like a program code, because relationships are influenced by culture, laws, and personal experience.
From the point of view of evolutionary psychology, ancient communities demonstrated different forms of alliances depending on economic conditions. Practical psychologist Tatiana Goldman added that it is incorrect to talk about the "instinct of polygamy", since rigid innate programs play a lesser role in humans than in animals. Modern relationships are based not only on reproductive tasks, but also on emotional intimacy and self-realization.
"Modern science does not describe humans as either strictly monogamous or as a strictly polygamous species. Rather, as a species with such flexible strategies. So the phrase "I am polygamous by nature" is not a scientific fact, rather a rather gross simplification," she added.
Theory of attachment in relationships
The choice of relationship format is often related to the type of attachment. People with a reliable type are easier to build stable bonds in both monogamy and conscious non-monogamy. The avoidant type tends to distance more often, which can be combined with an interest in polyamory, but this is not a mandatory rule. Dmitry Yagudin, founder and head of the D.R. Yagudin International Neuroscience University, Doctor of Psychology, noted that the request to change the format often arises in moments of internal tension.
Yagudin emphasizes the importance of deciphering jealousy, which signals a threat of communication. Interest in a non-monogamous relationship in a couple usually concerns issues of security and self-worth for the partner. A healthy experiment is possible only if there are transparent agreements, honesty and mutual consent of all participants in the process.
"[The specialist's] task is to understand whether a person is expanding their ability to be intimate or gracefully avoiding it," Yagudin emphasized.
The impact of culture and the digital environment
Goldman attributes the growing interest in polyamory to the transformation of traditional institutions and the emphasis on individual freedom. Digital dating creates a sense of endless choice, and discussing different relationship models is no longer a taboo topic. Consumer culture also leaves its mark: for some people, the search for novelty becomes a habit.
"Modern culture really encourages a variety of choices, the search for new experiences and individual preferences — and these attitudes extend to the sphere of relationships," Goldman noted.
At the same time, it is important to separate conscious ethical practice and escape from vulnerability. If non-monogamy is used to avoid responsibility or hide an inner emptiness, it can lead to lies and chaos in your personal life. The key criterion for the maturity of a relationship remains the ability of partners to maintain emotional intimacy and comply with their obligations.
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