Psychologist pointed out the reason for following exes on social media
Some people continue to follow their former partners on social networks after a breakup. Lubov Lysenko, a practicing psychologist and teacher at the Smart International Institute of Psychology, told about the reasons for such behavior in an interview with "Gazeta.Ru" on Sunday, January 26.
According to her, one of the reasons for such behavior is jealousy and a sense of loss. If a person perceived a partner as a part of himself or property, parting becomes a heavy blow for him. By following the life of his ex, he tries to understand how he is experiencing the breakup, whether he is sad, has found a new love or is already enjoying life.
Another reason is emotional attachment. People often miss not so much the partner themselves, but their emotions and memories associated with the relationship. Watching exes allows you to relive these feelings and somehow keep the connection, even if it is only virtual.
Some people continue to follow their ex-partner's life because of the need to control the situation. For people who have difficulty coping with uncertainty, this behavior helps them maintain the illusion of control.
Unfinished emotional processes can also be the reason why a person continues to take an interest in the life of an ex. This often happens to those who fear the unknown and are not ready to accept the fact of the breakup. They may also be hoping for a renewed relationship.
"If you are facing something like this, it is important to give yourself time to heal and say goodbye to the past," noted the specialist.
In addition, low self-esteem and jealousy may be behind the behavior on social media. Some seek to make sure that the ex is doing badly in order to feel their superiority. However, if it turns out that their partner is doing well, it can cause the observer to feel worthless.
Lysenko also offered advice to those who face this kind of scrutiny in their lives.
"If it doesn't bother you, then don't make a big deal of it - everyone lives through a breakup differently and at their own pace. Try to keep your focus on yourself and fill your life with new people, interesting events and encounters. If such attention to your life makes you uncomfortable, you can make the page private or block your ex-partner. If you have maintained a normal relationship, you can call your partner for a direct conversation and state your position. The main thing - remember that you do not need to tolerate if you do not like it," - reported Lysenko.
Earlier, on December 17, 2024, it was reported that in 2025, most Russians are determined to change their personal lives for the better. Relationships will become a priority for 65% of women and 58% of men, follows from the results of a study of the deiting-service Mamba.
