Experts talked about the specifics of divorce after a long marriage
Divorce after a long marriage has legal features and psychological reasons. The spouses will have a difficult division of property and finances. All the details are in the Izvestia article.
Features of the division of property
Ilya Vasilchuk, a trial lawyer and public figure, said that when long-term unions are dissolved, the main conflicts arise due to the division of real estate, finance and business. According to Article 34 of the Family Code of the Russian Federation, all jointly acquired property, including income from entrepreneurship, deposits and securities, is recognized as common property. Disputes over mortgages and debts, which are also considered to be joint, are particularly difficult.
"In such cases, the amount of property is significantly higher than in the case of divorces in short marriages. There are often disagreements about the allocation of personal assets from the general mass. In addition, conflicts over financial assistance to adult children and participation in the upbringing of grandchildren are added to property disputes," the expert said.
Some spouses try to hide part of the property from the division using various schemes. These include the registration of assets for relatives, the creation of fictitious loans, the urgent sale of property at an undervalued price or the concealment of investments in cryptocurrency. However, with the participation of qualified specialists, such actions leave provable traces.
Vasilchuk emphasizes that the courts manage to uncover such frauds through an analysis of bank movements and sources of funds. If it is proved that the object was paid for during the marriage period with common money, the formal date of the contract or the name of the owner do not play a key role. At the same time, the expert points to a positive trend.
"It is worth noting that after a 'long' marriage, spouses show greater maturity in their relationships and more often choose an out—of—court option - 'by mutual consent,'" the lawyer said.
Psychological reasons for divorce
Divorce in adulthood is rarely spontaneous and often results from years of unresolved conflicts. After the age of 40, people go through a stage of reassessing their achievements and needs. Practical psychologist Tatiana Goldman explains that during this period, spouses may face emotional distance, especially when children become independent and cease to be the main unifying link of the family.
"We can say that after 40, people really become less willing to put up with relationships that don't bring happiness and inner comfort. But the point is rather not a decrease in tolerance, but a greater psychological maturity. By this age, people tend to have a better understanding of their boundaries, values, and which relationships are supportive and which are draining," the expert explained.
The psychologist called the involvement of children in adult conflicts one of the main mistakes during this period. For a child, it is much more important to have a sense of stability, predictability, and an understanding that the love and support of both parents remain, even if the family changes its usual format.
According to Goldman, divorce in itself does not necessarily become a trauma, a long life in an atmosphere of tension, hidden conflicts and emotional coldness affects the child's psyche much more strongly.
At the same time, the psychologist added, it is after 40 years that many people are stopped not only by the very fact of separation, but also by the uncertainty of the future. One of the most frequent fears is the need to rebuild your personal life. There are questions about trust and one's own attractiveness at this age. Such experiences are natural, since after a long-term relationship, a person needs time for emotional recovery and the formation of a new identity. Observations show that adulthood often becomes a period of more conscious choice of a partner based on the coincidence of values and life experience.
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