The psychologist explained the reasons for supporting the crying person during the conflict

People in conflict situations are often inclined to blame the one who brought the other to tears, even if the circumstances are ambiguous. Psychologist Elena Dirinko told Izvestia on April 13 about the psychological mechanisms underlying such a reaction.

According to Dirinko, people tend to explain the behavior of others by their personal qualities rather than circumstances, so if a person cries, the second participant in the conflict is automatically perceived as an aggressor. She added that the observer effect plays an important role: outsiders see only the external episode and draw quick conclusions without taking into account the context of the situation. At the same time, the conflict participant himself tends to explain his actions by circumstances rather than personal qualities.

Emotions become an additional factor. Tears cause a strong reaction, enhance empathy, and reduce critical thinking. As a result, observers are more likely to take the victim's side and ignore alternative explanations. Perception is also influenced by the desire to believe in the justice of the world. If someone is suffering, people expect that there must be a culprit, so they tend to appoint him without sufficient evidence.

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In addition, according to Dirinko, strong emotions in conflict can reduce the trust of others.

"People perceive emotional control as a sign of stability, and a strong outburst may look like an inability to cope with difficulties," she explained.

In addition, shouting and aggressive behavior often worsen the reputation of the person himself. They are perceived as a threat and a violation of social norms, which reinforces negative attitudes from others.

The expert noted that in order to maintain credibility in a dispute, it is important not to suppress emotions, but to control their expression. To do this, it is recommended to use pauses, speak in a calm tone, and formulate thoughts through "self-messages." According to her, the "fact — emotion — request" model is effective, in which a person first describes the situation, then his feelings and suggests a solution.

Earlier in the day, psychologist Alexandra Grazhdanov said that credit anxiety is associated not only with worries about money, but also with a sense of loss of control, stability and security. According to the expert, unlike rational financial planning, such anxiety can capture attention and affect daily life. It manifests itself in constant internal tension, obsessive thoughts about debts, scrolling through negative scenarios, as well as in sleep disorders, concentration and bodily discomfort.

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