The psychologist talked about protection from gaslighting to preserve internal integrity

Gaslighting is one of the most dangerous types of psychological violence, the purpose of which is to destroy the victim's connection with his own reality. The main task of a manipulator (gaslighter) is to appropriate another person's power for personal purposes, whether financial, emotional or career. On September 19, Izvestia was told how to maintain clarity of thinking in relationships and at work by a business psychologist, strategic management consultant, and Director of Development at Together LLC.About " Alexander Berezhnoy.

"Gaslighting is characteristic of psychoemotionally immature individuals. The model of struggle and the desire to subjugate other people are aimed at compensating for personal pain and missing love as a source of life. The gaslighter satisfies the need for energy through "feeding" destructive human emotions," the expert said.

According to Berezhny, the main mechanism of gaslighting is the creation of an artificial reality into which the manipulator introduces the victim. He provides false information, distorting reality in order to present himself as a savior. For example, a gaslighter can falsify the details of project preparation, then intervene, correct "mistakes", and then convince a person that he himself was to blame for the misunderstanding. This destroys the victim's inner confidence and undermines her support.

To protect yourself from gaslighting and maintain clarity of thought, the psychologist suggested eight stages of inaccessibility. The basis of protection is an inner sense of integrity and value. Key steps: awareness of your own emotions, identification of personal values and goals, as well as the ability to conduct an honest and direct dialogue. It is important to learn to understand the motives of others and make decisions based on your own needs and values, rather than out of fear or guilt.

"This algorithm is aimed at increasing emotional immunity from gaslighting and qualitative improvement of personal and working relationships, rather than confrontation with a gaslighter," the expert concluded.

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