The psychologist named the reason for the tendency to avenge infidelity in women

Many women immediately break up with their partners after encountering infidelity and try to move on, someone forgives the incident in order to preserve the relationship, but the third type seeks revenge on the man for the pain caused. Lyubov Lysenko, a practicing psychologist and lecturer at the Smart International Institute of Psychology, told Gazeta about this on Monday, April 21.Ru».

As the interlocutor of the publication pointed out, some people tend to take revenge, because such women put their strength, time and dreams into the relationship. Faced with betrayal, revenge becomes not just an outburst of resentment for girls, but a defense mechanism. With revenge, a woman tries to regain control of her own life, to prove to herself and the world that she is not a victim, but a strong person who can stand up for herself, the expert explained.

Lysenko called the female act of revenge a complex cocktail of emotions, which includes pain from loss, rage and a desperate desire to restore destroyed self-esteem.

"However, revenge rarely brings real satisfaction. It can temporarily relieve the pain, but in the end it only leaves a residue in the soul and prevents further development," the psychologist warned.

According to the expert, true healing does not begin with reckoning, but with forgiveness — first of all, oneself. It is important to realize that the experience is not the end, but only a difficult stage, followed by a new, bright chapter in life. A woman who is faced with infidelity should remember that her value does not depend on someone else's choice. She deserves true love and happiness, and she will find them as soon as she gets rid of the burden of the past and believes in the future, Lysenko concluded.

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