The psychologist told about the reasons that prevent people from finding a couple

In today's world, it's hard to find a soulmate because of the mismatch of goals and values. Anastasia Lysakova, Candidate of Psychological Sciences, said this on Monday, March 10, commenting on the VTsIOM survey data that 7 out of 10 Russians are afraid of loneliness.

"People who are focused on starting a family are one category, the other is absolutely not focused. And when they meet, there is a discrepancy, frustration (disappointment up to depression) is inevitable," the expert explained in an interview with Radio 1.

According to Lysakova, social values have changed a lot over the past 20 years, which leads to a violation of previous traditions related to family building.

"Previously, at the age of 20-25, it was considered absolutely normal if you were already married or if you had children. But now everything has changed: everyone is building a career, everyone is emancipated, and because of this, of course, there are difficulties," the psychologist noted.

She added that the difficulties with a love partnership are also related to the fear of making mistakes and experiencing pain again.

"A woman meets a man, and he says he's serious about everything, but in fact his goal is a fleeting relationship. After several such cases, a woman may become disillusioned with the relationship in principle. Sometimes, even after one unfortunate incident, a stereotype develops that everyone is a liar, a liar, and you can't trust anyone. And it's the same for men," the psychologist concluded.

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On March 5, psychologist Daria Dugentsova said that social connections, public spaces and interest groups help to cope with loneliness. 360.ru .

Earlier, on February 27, Anna Lodz, a psychoanalyst and lecturer at the Moscow Institute of Psychology, said that the return of former partners is a common phenomenon with various reasons. The specialist noted that the desire to fill an inner void can be a real, sometimes unconscious reason to resume past relationships.

Earlier, scientists came to the conclusion, after conducting a family survey, that liberal views make girls unhappy and lonely. It turned out that only 12% of liberal women feel satisfied with their lives, when 37% of women with conservative views turned out to be happy, NSN reports.