The psychoanalyst named the reasons for returning to former partners

"This is often dictated by the unbearability of loneliness and the fear of losing control over an ex-partner, especially in codependent relationships. The desire to fill an inner void can be a real, sometimes unconscious reason to resume exactly past relationships — to return to where you were once happy, although these memories may be just an idealized fantasy," the specialist said in an interview with Lenta.Ru .

According to the psychoanalyst, dissatisfaction with a new relationship can also prompt an attempt to bring back a past partner. In addition, do not forget about the possible desire to take revenge, to hurt a former partner through manipulation, control and guilt. Another important factor is unresolved conflicts and understatement, which can be a reason to resume communication, but not necessarily a relationship, Lodz added. In addition, idealizing the past and forgetting negative aspects plays an important role, she added.

"The proposed 'friendship' often serves as a tool of control, manipulation, or lust for power, rather than a genuine desire to maintain friendly ties. Therefore, such initiatives should be approached with caution, analyzing actions rather than words, and assessing their impact on your emotional state," the psychoanalyst noted.

The expert emphasized that if a former partner wants to return, it's worth remembering the reasons for the breakup, thinking about whether the problems have been solved, whether he has changed in deeds rather than in words, and whether returning corresponds to your goals.

She urged not to rush, to set clear boundaries and rules in communication. You can also ask for support if necessary. She added that one should not be afraid to say "no."

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Earlier, on February 14, Rosa Gnedovskaya, a psychologist and expert in the field of relationship crisis, said that online dating very rarely leads to a serious relationship, as men usually pursue other goals in this case. href="https://nsn.fm/society/perepisyvautsya-dva-goda-psiholog-prizvala-ne-iskat-sereznyh-otnoshenii-v-internete " target="_blank">NSN.