The psychologist called the signs of healthy and dangerous conflicts in a couple
Conflicts in a relationship are not in themselves a sign of problems if the partners maintain respect for each other and are ready for dialogue. The danger arises when a dispute turns into personal attacks or remains unresolved. About this on June 13, "Gazeta.En," said Inna Mirnaya, a psychologist and founder of the Institute of Family Psychology.
According to the expert, the main sign of a healthy conflict is the desire to understand the other person's position, even if they disagree.
"Even if the partners disagree, they try to understand what is behind the other's words. In such conflicts, there is a movement towards dialogue, not victory," Mirnaya said.
The expert stressed that an important indicator of the stability of a relationship remains the ability to end a conflict and return to communication.
"The conflict should not last indefinitely. It has a beginning, a peak, and an ending. If a couple is able to get out of it, this is an indicator of the stability of the relationship," explained the psychologist.
At the same time, the expert stressed that the so-called silent conflicts can be alarming signals, when partners avoid discussing problems, and tension gradually accumulates. The specialist called the transition from discussing the situation to criticizing the personality another dangerous sign.
According to Mirna, repeated arguments without trying to solve the problem also indicate underlying difficulties in the relationship.
Larisa Karavaitseva, the chief psychologist of the Twinby dating service, told Izvestia on June 9 that after a period of intense love, many couples begin to confuse comfort in a relationship with boredom. The expert noted that calmness and predictability around a partner are signs of emotional security, whereas boredom is associated with a loss of interest and engagement.
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