Psychologist named a way to tell a child about the existence of "bad people"

It is important for a young child to live in the belief that everyone is kind and good and loves him, but at some point he has to make it clear that the world is not as safe as he would like. Alexandra Anykina, a child psychologist for parents, told about this on Friday, July 11. She named the right way to tell a child about the existence of "bad people."

"We discuss with the child that people react differently. Look, in the fairy tale, the bunny did this, and the fox cub did this — the characters act differently. Slowly, during everyday conversations, the child learns to understand: people are different, they love different things, dislike different things, behave differently in different situations, look different, and so on," the psychologist explained in an interview with Lenta.Ru .

She added that as a child grows up, he learns to recognize feelings and his world becomes more complicated.

Anykina noted that when a child can already understand that all people are different, it's time for an important conversation about bad people, as there is a chance that behind the mask of a good uncle with ice cream in his hand, he will be able to recognize an "outsider." It is necessary to talk about this simply, honestly and directly, the specialist emphasized.

According to the psychologist, the first thing to convey is that you should never talk to strangers and go anywhere with them. Secondly, it is necessary to discuss the boundaries of the body, that is, if someone touches a child where it is not allowed, you should immediately tell your parents about it, even if it is done by a well-known person. Third, you should never keep secrets from your parents. There's no secret that can't be told to Mom or dad.

The specialist stressed that in order for this rule to work, it is important for a child to feel safe in his relationship with his parents, and if he is afraid that he will be scolded for something, he will probably be more secretive, which is unsafe.

As soon as the Internet becomes available to the child, it should be regularly explained that a bad adult may be hiding behind the avatar. When a child starts walking alone or going to school unaccompanied, conversations about safety should be repeated regularly.

Anykina noted that parents cannot protect a child from all dangers, but they can increase the likelihood that in a difficult situation he will remember something he was previously warned about.

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Earlier that day, psychologist Ekaterina Svistunova, director of the Psychological Center for Education and Counseling, told in an interview with kp.ru that many parents face the fact that teenagers become withdrawn, refuse to share their thoughts and emotions, and any conversations end in conflicts. According to the expert, if phrases like "do your homework quickly", "stop whining" or "it's your own fault" are often heard in the family, this is a sign of negative communication.

On July 1, psychologist Ekaterina Catalina stated in an interview with NSN that monitoring children's profiles on social networks should be reasonable and delicate.

Instead of strict control, the specialist advised to talk openly with children about the risks of the Internet and maintain a trusting dialogue. 360.ru .

On June 28, "Moscow 24" reported that in the capital, every second parent advocates a ban on social media for teenagers. It is noted that more than half of the parents surveyed fully support the idea of banning social networks for children.

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