The psychologist pointed out the difference between caring and overprotective

Anastasia Cardiakos, a family psychologist, explained the difference between caring and overprotection. In an interview with Radio 1 on Tuesday, August 11, the expert noted that caring helps a child feel safe, develop and gradually become independent. Hyperprotection, despite its external resemblance to love and attention, on the contrary, can deprive him of the necessary experience — the ability to accept limitations, wait, cope with disappointment and control his desires.

According to the expert, a child is not born with the ability to set boundaries on his own. At first, this role is assumed by parents, setting rules and norms of behavior. Gradually, external constraints become internal, and the child learns to understand that he can experience different feelings and want something, but not every desire can be fulfilled immediately.

Cardiakos stressed that caring does not involve turning a child into the center of the family, whereas overprotection often arises from parental anxiety and the desire to protect him from any difficulties. At the same time, outside the house, others will not always be ready to give in, adjust, or immediately pay attention to him. Therefore, it is important for a child to gradually become familiar with such conditions with the support of a reliable adult: to feel loved, but not omnipotent, to have the right to emotions without controlling the life of the whole family, and to receive help without avoiding their own efforts.

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Neuropsychologist Anastasia Kuzmina noted on August 7 that household helplessness is rarely associated with developmental peculiarities. Most often, the parents themselves are to blame, who perform absolutely all actions for the child in order to save time, NSN notes.

In June, Yakov Yakubovich, an expert on socio-economic policy, spoke about the differences between toxic and healthy care. According to him, one of the key problems is that excessive care often turns into dependence. As a result, a person gets used to having important decisions made for him. Parents often confuse caring with control, subconsciously fearing their own uselessness if the child learns to manage without their intervention, notes Pravda.Ru .

Also in June, psychologist Anna Guseva called low self-esteem and fear of mistakes the consequences of overprotection. According to her, healthy participation implies help upon request, support without solving problems for another, and respect for the right to make mistakes. Hyperprotection, on the contrary, manifests itself in actions without a request, reports 360.ru .

Before that, the site kp.ru With reference to experts, he noted that overprotection is most often considered within the framework of child-parent relations. In particular, it can lead to learned helplessness, difficulties with social adaptation, and problems with self-esteem.

In May, Yana Karushkina, an expert at the New Era Development Center, said that stress tolerance in children is formed not through artificial tests, but in an atmosphere of trust, support and acceptance, writes RT.