The psychologist spoke about the "glued emotions" in modern people

Even the most joyful events in life — a wedding, buying a home, career growth or a long—awaited vacation - can be accompanied by inner tension and anxiety. Anastasia Anikina, a psychologist and relationship specialist, told Izvestia on June 16 about why it can be difficult for a person to experience joy without an admixture of doubts and self-criticism.

According to the expert, many people face so-called glued emotions, when positive experiences are automatically intertwined with feelings of guilt, anxiety, or inner dissatisfaction with themselves. As a result, even when the goal is achieved, instead of satisfaction, the usual internal dialogue arises: "It could have been better," "You didn't deserve it," "You didn't try hard enough." The roots of this perception are often formed in childhood, when joyful or successful moments were accompanied by criticism or devaluation.

"The child won a prize and instead of support, he heard: "Why not the first one?" Or he was happy and got a remark for showing too much emotion. This is how a stable bundle is formed: joy and shame, success and guilt, pleasure and anxiety. In adulthood, it starts to work automatically, even if there are no objective reasons for worry, " explains the psychologist.

According to the expert, an additional influence is exerted by the cultural context, in which joy is often perceived with caution. Over time, the experience of uncertainty is added to this: the fear of losing what has been achieved increases internal tension, even in moments of success.

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In modern reality, the situation is aggravated by a high focus on constant achievements. People often do not have time to "live out" the joy of the result, immediately switching to the next goal, which makes positive emotions short-lived.

The specialist identified a number of signs of "glued emotions": difficulties accepting praise, guilt after success, anxiety in moments of happiness, the desire to hide achievements and the feeling that rest must be earned. All this suggests that it is difficult for a person to fully afford joy.

At the same time, the psychologist emphasizes that such a condition is not a verdict. According to her, it is important to learn to notice automatic thoughts and separate them from real emotions, as well as to form a new experience of living joy safely.

"It is useful to ask yourself the question: whose thought is this — mine or an internal criticism. Gradually, the brain learns to associate positive events with safety in a new way, rather than with threat," Anikina noted.

Working with the inner state and a supportive environment help to gradually "disconnect" the glued emotions and learn to fully experience joyful moments without feelings of guilt and anxiety.

Olga Avanesyan, a practicing psychologist and psychotherapist, told on June 3 how unlived emotions turn into chronic diseases. According to her, the body spends resources on their constant containment, which over time can lead to fatigue, inflammatory processes and health problems. The psychologist noted that it is important to follow a mental hygiene and regularly work with your feelings, including with the help of a psychologist. This helps not to accumulate internal tension, reduces the number of unexplained symptoms, restores energy and improves the quality of relationships with others.