The expert called the difference between healthy care and toxic care

Yakov Yakubovich, an expert on socio-economic policy, spoke about the differences between toxic and healthy care. In conversation with the agency RuNews24.Ru On Monday, June 8, he noted that more and more adults are facing the consequences of overprotection: it is difficult for them to make decisions, take responsibility and cope with uncertainty.

According to him, one of the key problems is that excessive care often turns into dependence. As a result, a person gets used to having important decisions made for him, and begins to fear mistakes.

The expert called the imbalance between rights and responsibilities another trap. Many people want to enjoy freedom of choice, but they are not ready to take responsibility for the consequences of their own decisions. According to Yakubovich, responsibility is a skill that is formed from childhood and requires practice.

The specialist also drew attention to the difference between caring and overprotective. If a child is constantly prevented from acting independently, he develops self-doubt. In adulthood, this can lead to problems with personal boundaries and independence. In addition, the expert noted that families in which all decisions are made by one person often reproduce a model of excessive control. According to him, this hinders the development of initiative and the ability to trust others.

Yakubovich stressed that it is possible to overcome the consequences of overprotection only through the gradual development of independence: it is important to learn how to make decisions, not be afraid of mistakes and not shift responsibility for your life onto others.

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In April, psychologist Nikolai Nikiforov warned that overprotection deprives teenagers of the ability to make independent decisions. He stressed that the modern education system, in which the child becomes the central figure in the family, leads to avoidance of growing up, RT reports.

In February, child psychologist Ekaterina Ilyicheva in an interview with the website kp.ru She warned that abuse of children often manifests itself not through physical violence, but through hidden psychological pressure — emotional rejection, overprotection, gaslighting, comparisons and verbal aggression. According to Ilyicheva, such behaviors cause chronic stress, can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety and problems in relationships, so it is important for parents to respect the boundaries of the child and monitor their own reactions, notes 360.ru .

In January, Marina Mai, an expert on child development, spoke about the negative impact of overprotection on children. According to her, parents who take excessive care prevent their children from developing and cause fear of mistakes. According to the expert, the modern cult of "childhood without tears" can lead to a child's lack of independence.

Earlier, psychologist and psychotherapist Alexander Vronsky said that overprotection can lead to children "huddling together" and doing terrible things, filming what is happening on video. Then we are already talking about a mental aberration, when sadistic tendencies appear. Such children necessarily need accounting and classes with psychotherapists, according to the NSN.