Experts spoke about the dangers of hyper-independence for women

The "me myself" syndrome, which is often perceived as a manifestation of strength and responsibility, in practice can be an alarming psychological signal. According to experts, hyper-independence often hides a fear of vulnerability, difficulties with trust, and protective attitudes formed in childhood. All the details are in the Izvestia article.

Why does the "me myself" syndrome interfere not only in life, but also in career

According to psychologist Natalia Kucheryavaya, the habit of coping with everything alone is often formed at an early age if the child does not receive sufficient emotional support. According to her, if parents were cold, overly critical, or broadcast attitudes like "don't complain," "don't show weakness," and "handle yourself," the psyche develops an appropriate survival strategy. Over time, it becomes fixed and turns into a life scenario.

In adulthood, asking for help begins to be perceived as a sign of weakness or dependence. Additional pressure also creates a public image of an "ideal woman" who must do everything and cope with everything on her own.

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What causes hyper-independence?

According to Curly, the "me myself" syndrome only works up to a certain point. Constant monitoring and refusal of support gradually lead to chronic fatigue, emotional burnout, irritability and a feeling of loneliness. This is reflected in his personal life.

Why does it interfere with your career

Anna Alikova, an independent HR expert, noted that the "me myself" syndrome is especially noticeable in the work environment - in project work without clear boundaries, after a promotion, or in a corporate culture where the image of a "hero" employee is valued. According to her, such employees are easy to recognize: they rarely ask questions, take a job on vacation, work to the last and often complete tasks already at the limit of resources.

The expert explained that the fear of asking for help is usually associated with several reasons at once: fear of appearing incompetent, social attitudes about the need to "be comfortable", as well as negative experiences when help was accompanied by depreciation or expectation of a return service.

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Why is it so difficult to delegate

Experts note that the refusal of delegation is associated not only with the habit of controlling everything, but also with an inner fear of vulnerability. It seems to a person that it is easier to do it yourself than to explain, check or risk someone else's mistake. In addition, recycling often gives a false sense of stability and confirms an internal attitude: value must be earned through constant stress.

Anna Alikova emphasizes that the differences in this issue between men and women are largely due to social scenarios. According to her, representatives of the stronger sex more often perceive delegation as a working tool, while women often doubt whether they have the right to ask for help, and even when doing so, they accompany the request with excuses.

Why it's important to learn how to ask for support

The psychologist noted that the ability to rely on others is not a weakness, but an important indicator of psychological maturity. According to the expert, the first step is to recognize that the need for support is natural. Man is not made to deal with everything alone.

Experts agree that the ability to ask for help, delegate and share responsibility is a prerequisite not only for emotional well—being, but also for healthy relationships and a sustainable career.