Psychologist named ways to get out of a "love triangle"

Situations where a person finds himself drawn into a "love triangle" are always associated with rigidity in roles, beliefs, and recurring scenarios. On May 12, Anna Makarova, a clinical psychologist, business coach and business consultant, spoke about ways to get out of this type of relationship in an interview with Gazeta.Ru».

"The love triangle is almost always about rigidity: rigid roles ("I'm always the one who waits," "I'm the one who can't make up my mind"); rigid beliefs ("there's no other way," "all men are like that," "normal relationships don't happen") and rigid scenarios that repeat from one stories to another one," she said.

At the same time, the process of breaking a "love triangle" can be associated with pain and risks: a person is required to make specific decisions and face the consequences of their actions. At the same time, it is honesty that gives a chance to return to the traditional format of a couple's relationship.

"It often requires an honest conversation, personal or couple therapy, and a willingness to meet yourself not as a "wife," "lover," or "that man," but as a living person with their own needs and boundaries. But only through such honest contact is another life possible, where there are two people in a relationship again, not three, and everyone takes their place not by injury or habit, but by conscious choice," said Makarova.

She added that a "love triangle" is a whole system of built relationships, not just a casual affair or infidelity. Within its framework, each participant is assigned its own tightly regulated function, which shackles the participants, preventing them from meeting their real feelings, fears, vulnerability and responsibility.

"The classic triangle that we most often imagine is a married man, his wife, and a woman with whom he is in a relationship on the side. Each participant performs his assigned function, rather than living in a lively, flexible contact. The roles turn out to be rigid, rigid, and it is precisely this rigidity that prevents people from truly facing feelings, fears, vulnerability, and responsibility," the psychologist said.

Psychologist Tatiana Vasilkova told on April 24 how to strike a balance between making a good impression when meeting and remaining yourself at the same time. The specialist noted that by carefully choosing phrases that can or cannot be said, you force yourself to constantly "wear someone else's mask," but disappointment will come with time. According to Vasilkova, there is never any room for sincerity in a relationship with games and correct phrases, so they are doomed to failure.