The expert named the main mistakes in correspondence at the start of dating

A sharp decrease in interest in correspondence at the start of dating is often due not to a lack of sympathy, but to the wrong choice of topics and the presentation of the dialogue. Natalia Krasilnikova, PR director of the Mamba online dating service, told Izvestia about this on April 20.

"There are topics that almost always require more intimacy than they are at the very beginning. Exes, debts, illnesses, family traumas, violent conflicts, political disputes, overly harsh conversations about intimacy — communication with such issues quickly ceases to be easy," the expert said, noting that at the initial stage of communication, people primarily evaluate the comfort and ease of interaction.

Krasilnikova stressed that even neutral questions can spoil the impression if they sound like a series of checks. When the dialogue turns into a series of clarifications about work, income, or intentions, the interlocutor feels like an interrogation rather than a live conversation.

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The expert paid special attention to the topic of former partners. According to her, early and detailed discussions of past relationships create a sense of incompleteness and can cause wariness in the interlocutor.

In addition, correspondence in messengers enhances the effect of awkwardness, since the text does not convey intonation and emotions. As a result, even neutral language can be perceived more harshly than in a face-to-face meeting.

Instead, the specialist recommends starting communication with light and neutral topics — interests, hobbies, travel, or everyday situations. Such conversations allow you to establish contact faster and understand how comfortable people are with each other.

According to Krasilnikova, a successful acquaintance is based on a natural dialogue without pressure and attempts to accelerate rapprochement. Maintaining lightness and respecting the personal boundaries of the interlocutor helps to maintain interest and develop communication.

On March 25, Krasilnikova said that the decision to continue communication in most cases is made right during the first meeting and rarely changes afterwards. It clarifies that up to 85% of women are not ready to go on a second date if a man has not lived up to expectations or the so-called red flags are noticeable in his behavior. Representatives of the stronger sex are more flexible in this matter: about 35% admit the possibility of giving a second chance.