The expert explained the feeling of emptiness when focusing only on external achievements

Focusing only on external achievements can lead to a feeling of emptiness and loss of inner satisfaction. Behavioral therapist Elina Landman told Izvestia about this on April 13, explaining how the difference between "need" and "want" affects a person's psychological state.

"Success is always shaped from the outside. This is an action–result–ego-filling chain. "I did it, so I am." However, such satisfaction is short—term," the specialist noted.

According to the expert, the feeling of a fulfilling life is formed not by external achievements, but by the inner state of a person. It is associated with awareness of one's own emotions, desires, and reactions to what is happening.

Cognitive behavioral therapy uses the emotion–thought–behavior formula, where emotions become the starting point. If a person focuses only on external requirements, he loses contact with himself and his own needs.

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The expert added that the juxtaposition of "need" and "want" is erroneous. Responsibilities often arise from unrealized desires, which eventually transform into attitudes. For example, the desire for success may be related to the need for recognition, security, or support. Such internal conflicts create tension and can lead to anxiety and emotional exhaustion.

At the same time, actions based on interest and intrinsic motivation allow you to maintain flexibility and a sense of fulfillment. The specialist emphasized that in order to restore inner balance, it is important to distinguish between one's own motives and keep in touch with emotions.

"Success requires control. Do not fall into the illusion of "live only as you want." This is also an inflection. It is important not to start an internal war, but to return contact with the inner child, who is vulnerable and able to feel. And then the feeling of life ceases to be a hostage to external victories," Landman said.

Among the practical recommendations are regular assessment of your condition, keeping a motivation diary, as well as conscious planning of tasks that bring not only results, but also pleasure, the behavioral therapist concluded.

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