The psychologist explained the phenomenon of the ideal housewife syndrome

The ideal housewife syndrome is a stable pattern of behavior in which a woman sacrifices herself for the sake of order in the house, which leads to chronic stress and psycho—emotional exhaustion. Veronika Akhmetova, a practicing psychologist, told Izvestia about this on March 25.

The ideal housewife syndrome is a woman's desire for absolute order and control in the home. The psychologist clarified that the woman is in chronic stress, erasing personal boundaries, not distinguishing herself from home.

According to Akhmetova, perfectionism and guilt over rest are the main signs of the syndrome. If a woman takes a break before completing her tasks, this leads to anxiety and psychoemotional exhaustion. In addition, for such women with this syndrome, delegating responsibilities becomes stressful.

Perfectionism syndrome also affects personal relationships. The husband may avoid communication, as he is greeted at home not by his wife, but by a "cleanliness supervisor."

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"Children develop a fear of getting dirty, breaking something in general, and then they have a complete rejection of household responsibilities in adulthood," the expert added.

The ideal hostess syndrome also makes it difficult to maintain romance in a relationship. A woman whose fatigue from constantly maintaining perfect order reaches its peak ceases to perceive herself as a woman and partner, but rather as a cleaner or cook.

"To avoid burnout, first of all, it is necessary to separate the concepts of "I" and "home". Make a list of things to do, let's say that the most important thing, what is not important, is to learn how to separate them, and your social roles. <...> Highlight the most important. Look at how you look from the outside," the expert advised.

It is also worth realizing why there is such a need for perfection and what is behind it — perhaps an unconscious need for acceptance and love. In this case, it is best to consult a psychologist who will help you deal with this condition and find ways to overcome it, Akhmetova concluded.

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