The psychologist pointed out the importance of the skill of rejecting people

Anastasia Cardiakos, a family psychologist and psychotherapist, told us how to overcome the desire to please and please everyone.

In an interview with Radio 1 on Thursday, March 19, the expert noted that "comfortable people" have well-developed empathy and social skills, but at the same time, personal boundaries are poorly built. According to her, because of this, they often give in, smooth out conflicts and take on more than they need to, trying to please others. She also compared this model with the attraction of an empath and a narcissist: the former becomes interesting due to the emotions that the latter lacks.

The psychologist added that the way out could be to use one's empathy in a targeted way, for example, in organizing and interacting with social groups. At the same time, she stressed that it is important for such people to learn to refuse, despite feeling guilty, and gradually develop an understanding of their own desires. According to her, it helps to "return to oneself," because otherwise a person remains not himself, but only a convenient role, always understanding and trouble-free.

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The day before, Cardiakos said that "comfortable people" ignore personal desires and needs. Because of this, it is difficult for them to defend boundaries: they often agree, apologize, avoid criticism and try to smooth out conflicts, while accumulating internal tension, anxiety and a sense of loneliness.

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