The psychologist named a way to cope with pressure from loved ones

Clinical psychologist, psychologist, psychotherapist, specialist in dealing with dependent and violent behavior Elena Klen told how to cope with psychological pressure from loved ones.

In conversation with the agency RuNews24.Ru On Tuesday, January 27, she explained that the term "gaslighting" is often used on the Internet, but in real life it is not always correctly recognized. According to her, this is a form of psychological violence in which a person is forced to doubt their own memory and adequacy through manipulation and distortion of facts. As a result, feelings of guilt and anxiety, decreased self-esteem, isolation, and depression can occur.

The expert noted that gaslighting is most often discussed in the context of romantic and child-parent relationships, although it also occurs in friendship. At the same time, phrases like "you're making it up" or "you're exaggerating" can indeed be a manifestation of it, but they don't always talk about abuse. Maple explained that memories are subjective.: what the child remembered as a trauma, the parent might not have fixed in memory at all. However, this does not give the right to devalue the experiences of another.

According to the psychologist, an attempt to divide past experiences strictly into good and bad often leads to conflicts and a breakdown in communication. The more complicated family relationships are, the more difficult it is to sort out your own feelings — in such cases, psychotherapy can help.

In partnerships, as Maple noted, gaslighting sometimes occurs even without intentional violence — as a defensive reaction or a habitual pattern. She stressed that it is important to look at the situation more broadly: if partners are able to listen to each other and recognize different points of view, the relationship remains adaptive. If one insists only on being right and resorts to humiliation, this can lead to codependency and psychological harm.

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Psychologist Lydia Inshina told on January 26 what is the danger of gaslighting. The process begins imperceptibly, but gradually leads to a complete loss of self-confidence and the ability to assess reality, notes 360.ru .

Psychologist Ksenia Levina said on January 16 that gaslighting is a form of manipulation aimed at trying to make the victim doubt their own worth or the correctness of their decisions, writes RT.

Earlier Pravda.Ru She wrote that chronic gaslighting can lead to increased anxiety and sleep disruptions. A person replays conflict situations over and over again, begins to doubt himself and often wakes up at night in a state of anxiety. Therefore, restoring healthy sleep becomes an important part of getting out of this state — breathing practices, yoga, and avoiding gadgets before bedtime can help.

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