The psychologist explained the difficulties in finding a couple

Psychologist Yulia Vinokurova explained why conscious people cannot find a mate.

In an interview with Radio 1 on Thursday, November 20, she noted that a paradigm shift is taking place in the modern world: the family has ceased to be an obligatory tradition and is becoming a conscious choice, which is associated with profound changes in public consciousness. She explained that today relationships are considered not as a social obligation to "get married", but as a union in which two people should become easier.

According to her, now a partner is chosen not for the sake of everyday life, but for the sake of the coincidence of values, interests and the general direction of development. At the same time, as she noted, the more conscious a person is, the higher his requirements are — and the more difficult it is to find a person who is really close in spirit. However, one should not rush to idealize the past: in official marriages, the expert emphasized, there is often a lot of loneliness.

She added that modern loneliness is often not a verdict, but an indicator of the growing need for deep, high-quality relationships. And you can come to them only through self-knowledge and understanding of your values.

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On November 19, family psychologist Natalia Panfilova, in an interview with NSN, stressed the importance of understanding and respecting a partner's individuality. According to her, the feminine essence includes the desire to improve others, which often leads to conflicts in relationships. Panfilova noted that men often choose a woman "as is" and want her not to change, while women often seek to remake a partner to fit the ideal. She stressed that harmony in a relationship is possible only with respect for each other's individuality. 360.ru .

On October 8, cognitive behavioral therapist Elina Landman announced the destruction of the relationship due to expectations. According to her, they often cause quarrels and breakups in couples.

Earlier, psychologist Ekaterina Igonina advised couples to avoid conflicts on vacation. According to her, it is worth agreeing in advance and assigning responsibilities when planning a family vacation. It is also important not to criticize your partner for mistakes during the trip, as this can lead to quarrels and a spoiled mood, writes RT.

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