The psychologist assessed the impact of excessive guardianship on the child's independence

Psychologist, expert in the field of NLP, hypnotherapy and cognitive behavioral therapy Sergey Lunyushin named on Tuesday, November 11, several reasons why modern parents often accompany and meet children from school.

According to the expert, there are several reasons for this practice, and they are related to modern social and psychological factors.

"The situation was different for the generation of our parents and ancestors. In the 80s and 90s, despite the more difficult criminal situation, children were often allowed to go to school on their own already in elementary grades," he said in an interview with the agency. RuNews24.ru .

People often worked more, they had less time and opportunities to accompany their children on a daily basis. At the same time, the children grew up more independent.

"Now, even with a lower level of crime, parents increasingly prefer to control every minute of a child's life," the specialist added.

Lunyushin noted that many parents, especially those who grew up in difficult conditions, suffer from anxiety disorders. Therefore, in this case, excessive care is a way to reduce anxiety.

"But as a result, children don't get independence skills, which will affect their development in the future," he warned.

The expert noted that the third factor is social pressure and the desire to conform to others, as many parents are afraid to seem like bad moms or dads if they do not accompany their children.

At the same time, the expert stressed that excessive guardianship hinders the formation of independence in a child.

"True care is not control, but support and trust. It is important to teach children to be independent from an early age so that they can move confidently in life in the future," the psychologist concluded.

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Earlier in the day, social psychologist Lalena Bakayeva told how to teach independence to adult children. 360.ru . According to her, one should start with conversations, and harsh measures should be resorted to only as a last resort. The expert noted that helping your children is normal, but there is a limit to everything.

In turn, psychologist-psychotherapist Anna Khobotova said that parents should help children with homework in the first and partly in the second grade, and then gradually teach them to be independent, writes RIAMO.

Earlier, psychologist and psychotherapist Alexander Vronsky warned that overprotection can lead to children "huddling together" and doing terrible things, such as choosing an object for bullying.

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