The psychologist warned about the danger of the syndrome of a "convenient" person
Striving to be "comfortable" for others is not a manifestation of kindness — it is a path to emotional burnout, accumulation of resentment and loss of connection with one's own needs. She told the Newspaper about this on October 28.Ru" psychologist Irina Sevryukova.
"Many people believe that being comfortable, they deserve love and recognition. In fact, this is an illusion that works against a person," the specialist explained.
According to the expert, people who try to please everyone often face internal exhaustion and irritation from others.
"When a person tries to be comfortable, they subconsciously form a sense of duty in others. And no one likes to be obligated without their own initiative," Sevryukova added.
She stressed that the desire to "earn love" through constant concessions is based on insecurity and fear of rejection. To get rid of this behavior model, the psychologist advises learning to gently refuse, be aware of your own desires and not be afraid to protect personal boundaries.
"The main goal of abandoning the "convenient person" model is not selfishness, but building honest relationships based on reciprocity," the expert noted.
Earlier, on October 27, psychologist Sergey Lunyushin told the agency RuNews24.Ru that stereotypes help a person save mental energy and make decisions faster, but they often distort the perception of reality. He stressed that changing ingrained biases takes time and conscious effort.
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