Psychologist Krashkina named ways to distinguish a friend from a friend
In order to distinguish a real friend from an ordinary friend, there are several ways: you can take an affinity test or start keeping "emotional diaries." This was announced on October 8 by Irina Krashkina, a psychotherapist at JSC "Medicine" (Academician Roitberg Clinic).
The expert advises to observe the behavior of your friend, and during this process, try to note for yourself who is most often the initiator of communication and is there in difficult moments. She recommended keeping a so-called "emotional diary" for two or four weeks.
In addition, to test the emotional involvement of a potential friend, Krashkina urged you to tell him about "uncritical but important" problems for you, and then observe whether he shows empathy for what he has heard or laughs it off.
"Ask for a small but personal favor: "Could you look after my cat for the weekend?" or "Can I come to you if I suddenly feel unwell?" A true friend won't make a drama out of it— he'll either say yes, or honestly explain why he can't, but offer an alternative. After all, sometimes the most honest way is to talk directly. Such a conversation should not be accusatory, but rather exploratory," the expert added in an interview with the newspaper.Ru».
She also stressed that if it turns out that a person does not consider himself your close associate at all, you should not get upset, since acquaintances and relationships with colleagues, neighbors and hobby buddies are no less valuable, even though you should not expect depth from them.
Anthony Ong, a professor of psychology at Cornell University, whose words were quoted on October 6 in the journal Science Daily, noted the connection between long friendships and longevity. He clarified that it is not important for a person to have "one or two friendships", but the constancy of social ties observed over decades.
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