The psychologist talked about ways to survive the shame

Anna Guseva, a practicing psychologist, told Izvestia about how to deal with shame after an embarrassing act. For example, if personal photos and racy texts accidentally got online.

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The number of such incidents has increased by a quarter in a year.

Feeling ashamed for an embarrassing act, one should not immerse oneself in stress and social phobia. This can lead to further post—traumatic stress disorder - constant worries, headaches, and even avoidance of situations reminiscent of the incident.

"We begin to scrutinize ourselves, compare ourselves with others, and so on. In this case, it is important to track your symptoms before, during, and after an unpleasant situation. Does anxiety arise, do you feel excessive or unreasonable fear, do you do everything necessary and unnecessary to avoid the situation," the psychologist suggests.

The healing period of mental wounds lasts for six months if a person is over 18 years old, and may take a long time for minors, so they need maximum support.

I would like to draw your attention to the fact that shame is a very effective tool for manipulation. And ill-wishers will not hesitate to take advantage of it if you get stuck in an unpleasant situation for you, you keep thinking about it. Thus, you simply contribute to its further development. Thanks to mirror-neural connections, people read your emotions and experiences. So you will constantly remind yourself of your embarrassment, subconsciously inflate the situation, turning it into a core for provocation," warns Anna Guseva.

For more information on how to survive the shame and what threatens the publication of nuances in public chats, see the Izvestia article:

"Wrong chat: in what cases will they be judged for personal photos"