Experts told about the fate of gifts after the breakup of the relationship

Gifts after a breakup become not only a symbol of past love, but also the cause of new conflicts. Breaking up relationships is often associated not only with emotional experiences, but also with disagreements about material things. This is stated in a study conducted by the Mamba service together with SOKOLOV jewelry holding, which was reviewed on September 5 by Izvestia.

Men and women experience the end of a relationship differently. For the former, the breakup is often less emotional: 43% of respondents simply broke up with their partner. The latter are more likely to experience emotional stress: 19% of them noted that their breakup was prolonged and was accompanied by constant attempts to restore relations. Nevertheless, 24% of men and 20% of women continue to maintain friendly relations with former partners. Approximately one in four men and one in five women also admit that their breakup was accompanied by conflicts, quarrels and blockages.

As for gifts, almost half of the women surveyed consider it possible to give a gift to an ex-partner, while 73% of men limit themselves to words only.

"If there was a present, Russians often chose jewelry or flowers, while Russians chose symbols like postcards, key chains, or letters. In gratitude for the time spent together, 40% of women and 32% of men gave gifts. For some, the motive was completely different — to leave a memory of themselves or even to stab a partner," the study says.

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It is noted that after breakups, gifts often become the subject of discussion. Men, as a rule, are calmer: 50% of them continue to use things they received from their exes, and another 18% keep them as a memory. Women, on the other hand, often do not want to see reminders of the past.: 15% throw away gifts, and 14% hide them in the closet. However, the demand to return the presented surprises brings special drama. 32% of girls face demands to return jewelry, 18% — equipment, and 17% talk about cases when former partners demanded to return everything from gifts to the cost of restaurants and flowers. Men, in turn, also find themselves in a similar situation, but in smaller numbers: 46% did not receive such requests, and 20% of respondents note that their former partners asked for accessories.

In addition, the study drew attention to the fact that attitudes to dates also play an important role in these situations. So, 13% of women are sure that breakups took place intentionally before the holidays to avoid buying gifts, and 25% believe that their breakup coincided with the holiday dates by accident. And only a few respondents admitted that they themselves initiated a breakup on the eve of an important day in order to avoid expenses.

On September 2, psychologist Daria Salnikova said that writing by hand helps to control emotions. According to her, this technique is especially useful when too many feelings accumulate that can turn into something negative. In such cases, instead of expressing unconstructive words to a partner, you can put them on paper, and then calmly and consciously express your thoughts.

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