The psychologist explained the reasons for the lie and listed ways to deal with it.

There are two types of lies: direct misinformation (deliberate distortion of facts) and silence (partial concealment or distortion of the truth). There is often a hidden benefit behind any lie, whether it's avoiding punishment or maintaining the illusion of control. On August 9, Izvestia was told about the causes of lies and ways to overcome self-deception by a practicing psychologist, candidate of psychological Sciences, business coach, CEO of OOO "Together.ABOUT " Olesya Berezhnaya.

She noted that the roots of deceit often lie in family patterns and self-deception.

"If lying has been the norm in a person's coordinate system since childhood, it becomes a natural way of interacting. Lying generates new false constructions, increasing tension and distrust, destroying ties," the expert explained.

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According to the psychologist, any false behavior begins with deceiving oneself.

"Self—deception is the core of the problem of lying. It's important to ask yourself the following questions: what am I kidding myself about? What do I get from lying in my life? If the answer is honest: "I'm losing my peace of mind, trust in myself and others," is a signal for action," she said.

In addition, the expert explained why lies persist despite their destructiveness. Firstly, because of the lack of value of truth in a relationship where lying becomes a reflex reaction. Secondly, the illusion of short-term benefits plays a role, which, as a rule, does not outweigh the long-term consequences, such as loss of trust. Thirdly, a person may lie because he is not ready to face reality and its consequences.

"Lies are often caused by the unwillingness of the environment to constructively perceive the truth. If the revelation is met only with scandals and accusations, people tend to hide the truth," the psychologist added.

In order to get rid of lies, Berezhnaya advises starting with an awareness of the motives: why is a loved one hiding something? This will help you understand the real cost of lying. The purpose of the dialogue is not to find someone to blame and shift the guilt, but to work out new, honest agreements. The psychologist suggests focusing on the "here and now": ask yourself what value lies carry in relationships with others and what quality of life they create. An honest answer usually exposes her destructiveness and promotes a joint choice in favor of openness and trust.

On August 6, psychosomatologist Ekaterina Tur told whether it is possible to be a permanently happy person. According to her, people often try to conform to the imposed positive image — constantly smiling, forgiving, laughing — although this is only automatism, not the norm.

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