The psychologist talked about the intricacies of discussing alimony with her husband

The divorce process can lead to fear for the future and serious disagreements with the former partner. Olga Buyanova, a family psychologist, spoke about ways to establish a joint dialogue in an interview with Gazeta.Ru».

She noted that it depends on the decency and responsibility of a man whether he will faithfully pay alimony or not.

"He can think about his ex-wife whatever he wants, but he clearly understands that the child has nothing to do with it. If an adult man does not understand this and refuses to take responsibility, it means that his development stopped in adolescence. Or he received a bad upbringing," the psychologist said.

The expert warned that if the ex-husband refuses to fulfill his alimony obligations, then in no case should you make harsh statements, since an emotional reaction will only waste valuable energy.

"Often, mothers, instead of supporting the father's status, scold them, accuse them of being in the presence of children, and do not let them in. At first, men struggle, including sometimes manipulating the only means, in their opinion, money. If there comes a moment when they realize that everything is useless and they will never get what they want, they simply stop doing anything," the expert explained this behavior feature.

If the woman supports the father, the former spouses will correct the situation and the conflict will be settled.

It is also important to separate your own and parental feelings for your ex-spouse, as well as distinguish between emotions and objective facts. You should choose the right place for such a difficult conversation. Under no circumstances should this topic be discussed in the presence of children.

"Before starting a conversation, define clear and specific goals that you want to achieve. Determine the required amount of alimony and provide arguments to support your position. Be prepared for compromises and flexible solutions to find the best option for all parties," Olga Buyanova advised.

On February 28, the lawyer gave advice to those wishing to avoid financial disagreements in the family. Speaking about real estate, she noted that there are signed documents in Rosreestr or an inheritance file with a notary, where it is indicated to whom and what is transferred. In court, it is important to prove that the borrowed funds were not used in the interests of the family. It is very difficult to prove this, since the position of some courts is as follows: a person at that time, for example, did not work, but continued to eat, shop, and so on.