A psychologist spoke about trusting a partner after cheating

Clinical psychologist Daria Salnikova told whether it is possible to trust a partner after cheating.

In an interview with Radio 1 on Thursday, March 6, the specialist noted that cheating alone does not mean that the partner will go back to his old ways, because people often make mistakes.

"One of the main cognitive errors is that once a person has done this before, they will definitely behave the same way next time. If, for example, he cheated in a previous relationship, then he will definitely change again when you get together. But we do not have a crystal ball that predicts the future and warns about actions ahead of time," the expert emphasized.

According to her, people are often engaged in thinking and forecasting, which negatively affects the state of the psyche.

Regarding the return of the relationship, the psychologist noted that it is worth approaching the issue from the perspective of an investigator — to observe whether a person is really changing, trust the facts, and not rush headlong into the pool.

On February 25, psychologist Olesya Inevskaya said that emotional infidelity implies a strong sense of attachment to friends of the opposite sex without physical contact. This kind of betrayal is often accompanied by the idealization of a friend, which can be the beginning of the end of a relationship: the partner loses trust, and the friend finds himself in a vulnerable position. 360.ru .

Earlier in February, family therapist Anastasia Cardiakos told us what to do after a partner's betrayal. According to her, cheating can be forgiven, but it will take a lot of work. It will take a lot for a partner to weigh up in order to forgive the pain caused to him, but apologies and conversations can help him. At the same time, the main thing is not just to forgive infidelity, but also to accept it, which is often much more difficult. A psychologist will help you work through the painful experience.

In December, Oksana Belokon, a family psychologist, said that a psychologist can almost always help save a marriage if both spouses wish. According to her, there are certain crises, the ignorance of which can lead any family to the brink of divorce. Only 30% of families in conflict seek help from a psychologist, according to NSN.

In September, psychologist Diana Leontieva named cheating as one of the three main causes of divorce. According to her, misunderstandings and internal conflicts can also lead to a breakup of a relationship, leading to addictions of one of the partners, the website notes. aif.ru .

Last May, the site's survey kp.ru He showed that 72% of Russians would not forgive a partner in case of infidelity. Only 22% of respondents reported that they could continue a relationship with a partner, even after learning about his infidelity. Some clarified that they would not be able to forgive any betrayal.